The Unbreakable Book Club: The Body Keeps the Score
About nine months after the tragedy I went through, I started experiencing physical symptoms. My body was reacting to intense stress and anxiety in a way that I was not familiar with, which started a new health journey for me. I wanted to understand why my body was reacting this way and I was longing for answers. Naturally, I shared this with my incredible community and many people recommended that I read The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk. I avoided it for a long, long time. Why, right? Why would I avoid something that would help me? Really, I was afraid. I was afraid to be reminded of my own personal struggles through other stories and I was afraid of learning more truth to why I have these symptoms, even though I wanted answers. It all felt really scary and overwhelming.
With time, I learned that you don’t have to go through your trauma alone. There are people who understand and who are here for you. I decided to lean on my community and ask if anyone would want to read The Body Keeps the Score with me. This launched our very first Book Club! We meet each month over Zoom to discuss a part of the book together and I look forward to it each time.
Our first meeting was so special--we laughed, we cried, we listened, we comforted one another, and we were reminded that we are never alone. We ended our session imagining what healing looks like or could look like. This is different for everyone, but it felt so special to be in that room breathing alongside so many strong individuals, knowing that we will heal together. We also raised $350 for @therapyforblackgirls by @hellodrjoy, which is an online space dedicated to encouraging the mental wellness of Black women and girls. This has been the highlight of my year so far and something I will remember forever.
The Body Keeps the Score has reminded me that I am unbreakable—I break often, but I know that I CAN put my broken pieces back together again and hold on to that unbreakable feeling. I know that I can grow. I know that I can feel love and happiness. I know that I can feel safe again.
And I hope you know that you can too.
I will also always remember the unbreakable individuals in our very first Book Club. Three of our members, pictured above, wanted to share the most rewarding part about our book club with you.
Marissa: For me, the most rewarding part of the book club has been being able to meet women from around the country who are going through similar things as myself. I never would have thought that I would make such strong bonds with people that I have never met in person. I am so blessed and honored to be a part of a book club that has truly been a life-saver for me and feels like family.
Grace: The most rewarding part of being in the book club has been getting to meet and get to know such a wonderful group of people. I’ve been looking for a community of people who understand what I’ve been through and to grow stronger after tragedy. I am so grateful to have found the Unbreakable Organization and this book club.